Like many singles, I had created an online dating profile. Now I decided to take it more seriously—these days, I seem to hear fewer and fewer stories of real life meet-cutes.
Meanwhile, online, I could decide between sites with free memberships, such as Plenty of Fish; paid sites with an older, more earnest clientele, such as e Harmony; niche sites such as and Gluten-Free Singles; and many others, all slightly differentiated by price, demographics, and objectives.
This is a pattern that I have observed in my professional life for years: successful black men pairing up with white women, but now that the practice has come home to roost, so to speak, I cannot help but admit to feeling a bit demoralized.
Between the civil rights and feminist movements, where did they fit in?If OKCupid’s studies are anything to go by, black men gave black women the cold shoulder too and vice versa.A recent study found that black people of all ages were 10 times more likely to initiate contact with white people than other black people.Being online is like going to a party without encountering all the people who trap you in boring conversations.With Thanksgiving just around the corner, I cannot help but dwell on who might be coming to dinner.Women such as Angela Davis; law professor Kimberlé Crenshaw; academics Patricia Hill Collins, Beverly Guy Sheftall, and Bell Hooks; and historians Darlene Clark Hine, Paula Giddings, and Deborah Gray White have greatly expanded the context in which black women and their history and activism are discussed by underscoring black women’s issues related to race, gender, and class.